Category: Writers Block
The definition of love is a balance between feeling and desire." I found this definition of love, and it really made me think. It is simple,but it's meaning speaks volumes. Let me know what you think. Have a good night! :) Your friend poetry in motion :)
What did it make you think? What kind of love are you refering to here? I assume you are speaking of the romantic type. I think love is different things for different people. I think you can't really define love. Sure, like everything, there has to be a balance, but you may feel the need, or you may feel the desire. In romantic relationships, for example, the desire is a strong feeling of wanting that person, to be with that person; sexually and otherwise. I think you may come to feel love for that person, but it takes time spent with that person, knowing him and having an equal amount of respect too. I also think you can't really measure love. Just because you desire a person, doesn't mean you love them as much as you have the desire. That's what I think. :)
All right, I will hopefully make you think then, because the following story illustrates what it is really like to be human and fall in love, or at least live, with another human:
There was a man and woman who fell in love and got married. They believed that if one of them was having a hard day, the other should automatically understand. So they devised a coded system so each would know if the other was having a hard day.
If he was having a hard day, then when he came home, he would wear his hat upside down. If she was having a hard day, then when she came home, her coat would be inside out.
This worked all fine and good, until one day, he came home with his hat on upside down, just as she got home with her coat inside out.
Was the moral of that story divorce? Smile.
I have been loved, am loved, and have loved and do love deeply. These feelings are all different however.
Even in romantic love, I have learned that I can love different women differently. It is not the same.
I can even love 2 women at the same time deeply.
I have learned that it is possible to love someone, but they not love you back as deeply as you love them, and the other way around.
Some folks can love and love hard, and in the next minute, hate the person they claimed to love.
I personally can't do that, and if I love a person, I love them for life, even if we aren't together. It isn't as strong, sure, but it is there.
I can lust right now, miss the person when she's not sleeping next to me, or I've not talked to her for a while. Enjoy when she walks in to the room, and think about her all day.
I can physically have a need for her, remember her smell, taste, touch, and want to share with her. But you know what? Soon as she treats me badly, or we change for some reason, these feeling go away. Maybe that is temp love.
I know it is the human thing to seek love, but I have learned this is folly. Seek like, kindness, joy, and pleasure, and if it is meant, you will have love. If not, you'll have enjoyed a space in your life, and I think these spaces of lust, temp love are worth all the trouble you have when they fall apart.
All of this is my opinion of course. I think the best love is the love for self. When you love self you are a better lover, and someone one day will love you.
I agree with Dolce Eleganza that you can desire someone without loving them. Very interesting Leo.
I think love is leaving your self in order to join another person. Say you are feeling extremely angry, and you see a friend who is feeling extremely sad. If you stop and listen to them, or are their as a shoulder for them to cry on, you are loving. Putting another person's feelings, wants, needs and life before your own is loving. I'm not very good at it. Some of my friends can testify to that. But I am working on it.
I guess I don't try to define love. Things like that you can't always put into words so maybe it's better off to just stop trying to analyze it and relax and enjoy it in whatever form it takes. Just be glad you are capable of loving and are found to be lovable by others and don't worry about what it means.
Ah, but she's a romantic. And that is nice. Smile.
it's only nice sometimes. when it isn't idealistic, for example.
I happen to think it is one of the most sweet emotions. If you can keep it in prospective, it is nice.
Sweet people are romantics and many times make great lovers, because they try. Smile.
Reading this reminds me of something:
It has been said the Middle Ages brought us both gunpowder and romantic love. Both have changed the world as we know it, and both are amazing but volatile things.
I love my dick, and my dick loves me. I love my balls too. I love my dick more than my balls, but don't tell my balls that, cuz that would bum my balls out.
That isn't romance. That is self love. Lol
So here we go, a piece of my brain that you wouldn't really in other circumstances hear about, but it fits this topic so here goes.
I know I've loved, but don't know if I've been loved. I know I've loved because my feelings for them became bigger than me, humbled me, made me really reexamine who I am and what I do. I go out of my way to get things or do things that I know would make them smile. I wanted to see it more than anything, and knew I would even walk away from them, if it would make them happy. Love is not selfish, and I know what that means. I didn't need to hold on to them to love them, but I wanted it intensely. I could smile if they did, and it was really enough for me, and with every square inch of who and what I am, I loved, and I gave it freely.
And whenit was over, it was devastating. But things that happened during thattime taught me that you don't have to love that way just once. YOu can do it again. I do it even now, but it doesn't require anything, it lives because they do, and will live after they do. Love didn't die, it went away, and another love came to be. One never replaces another, they are all equally beautiful for their own reasons. Even gone, because the love once existed, it always does, whether in your heart or somewhere beyond you entirely. I love closing my eyes and believing in magic, because with the way the world is, it seems like magic.
That's just my definition. But I do believe it's different for everyone. It can be hard to be with someone who has a different definition of love, but it can be done, if that love really is whatever love is to you, and you can make it work.
I gotta go to the bathroom and take a poetry in motion.
I liked the post on love.
Love is a simple hormonal imbalance caused when lust and infatuation coincide. Give it a while, and things will get straightened out.